Call us crazy but we like hanging out with our kid. So much so, that we really haven’t had a “date night” since she’s been born. Sure we make time for one another during the moments when she’s napping, etc but when it comes to finding a sitter or having grandparents time while daddy and mommy take in a movie…just hasn’t happened.
I know exactly what you’re thinking, “But *insert random article and/or website* says that it’s important to maintain your relationship as husband and wife outside of the baby” I get it, I do. And I agree! But for us that just doesn’t equate to following what’s been laid out for us. We’ve always maintained that the most important thing for children is to have parents that love and respect one another. And that we do. Our love for her is an extension of our love for one another and right now including her in on our date nights bring more pleasure than not having her there. Let me explain. In scenario 1, we have mommy and daddy holding hands over a nice dinner and glass of their favorite wine. They are talking about their day and plans for the weekend. Sure, it’s nice and brings you back to the days when you were care free and dating. Scenario 2, mommy and daddy are at the dinner table at home with their little one between them. Instead of holding hands, one is holding the spill-proof bowl and the other is making airplanes noises to bring excitement to the bowl of sweet potato purée. Conversation about their day and weekend plans are interrupted by spit bubbles and funky faces. They pick up the conversation later over a slumbering little person nuzzled into mommys arms. For right now, we choose the latter.
For us, we find enjoyment in watching her experience new things. During our first restaurant experience, she fell asleep before we placed our orders. Nowadays she lights up at the waiters apron, folded napkins and watching daddy eat. It may not sound exciting to you but we eat it up. No pun intended. Maybe some day we’ll get back to exploring our city sans kid but for now, everything is just better with her in it.